This is the screensaver that I ignore every day when I turn on my computer. Surprisingly, today I saw it through different eyes. I’m sharing this because MAYBE I’m not the only one that needed a little wake up call or a gentle reminder before it’s too late.
I remember waiting in line at Starbucks one day a few years ago shortly after my son had died. A Colorado man who was in his final stages of cancer wrote a book that was displayed for sale at that local Starbucks. At the same time my son died, I had just lost three of my closest friends, two who had died of cancer. I wanted to know what this man was thinking and going through; so I bought the book.
The author started out talking about the company he had built from the ground up and proceeded to give detail upon detail of how he had made it successful. While I would expect that, especially of anyone who had tied their value to their accomplishments, I was shocked when the entire book, other than one chapter was all about what he had accomplished in his career. This man relegated one token chapter to the introduction of his lovely wife and children as if he felt they deserved being mentioned. With a flourish, he then finished his book with his legacy, his company. I felt sorry for him. He had all the money in the world but he couldn’t save himself from himself.
Most of us probably weave our loved ones in and out of the different chapters of our lives. We are the lucky ones. What is the measure of a life? I’m sure for some it is being a big movie star, a rock star, a President or famous author like Hemingway. That would be awesome, coming here to experience that. Many times there is a huge price for that fame and glamour as told in their stories or evidenced by movies about their lives. And, what about the rest of us? If we are a “nobody” in our own eyes, was our life a failure? A lost cause? Will anyone even care if we lived or died? I’ve always had a dream to write Legacy Stories for others. When I asked, I can’t tell you how many people said humbly that they didn’t have anything important to write about. So, I’m asking you, what matters or is important to you about your life?
I believe at the end of the day, every one of us yearns to know the measure of our life. We want to know that our life mattered in some small or huge way to someone, that it was worthwhile. We want to believe that we will be missed and remembered when we are gone.